Don’t Weigh Me Down

Let's ease up on the quest for post-pregnancy perfection—and recognize how insanely gorgeous our new-mom bodies truly are.

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I am in Hawaii. Paradise on earth. I’m with my husband and my 3-year-old twin daughters. It’s our first real vacation in a long time. But where am I really? I’m trapped in a set of three-way mirrors shedding clothes, outfit after outfit,  immobilized by a black cloud in my head. In this room of mirrors I can see parts of my body that are easy to ignore in the only full length mirror in our dimly lit hallway at home. In summery clothes skimpier than I normally wear, lumps and bumps I don’t recognize seem to have appeared out of nowhere.

My husband comes in. “What the hell is going on?”

“I just can’t get comfortable.” I mumble miserably. He grasps the situation immediately, which may say something about his level … // READ MORE

The Giver
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Considering the ancient technology we were dealing with back then, it’s a wonder it even happened, kids.

The other day, my daughter and I watched The Giver, the film adaptation of Lois Lowry’s 1993 novel. The story’s set in a utopian society that has eliminated pain and strife by converting to “sameness,” a plan that’s also eradicated human emotions. A boy named Jonas is selected to be the Receiver, the person who stores all the community’s past memories, in case they’re needed to make an important decision. He’s trained by the Giver, whose job is to transfer all that history—feelings included—to his protégé. In the process, Jonas learns that along with war and starvation and other suffering, the society has also lost the capacity to love and experience other types of joy. Kind of a bummer.

Soon after watching the film, it occurred to me that people roughly 30 years and older are “givers” to the next generation, and the memories we need to pass down are that of a former //READ MORE

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